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There are tons of manuals, treatises, books, etc. on how to orally satisfy your partner. Each says basically the same thing.
How complicated could it be, really. The language is pretty clinical, too. Bo-ring!
So here's a real life guide to giving him a fabulous blow job.
Fellatio, n. (fell-lay-she-o) To stimulate the penis orally.
It's the art of sucking dick, in other words. Fortunately for us humans, giving pleasure is more of an instinct than an art that must be learned, per se.
A Delicate Balance
To give fellatio, you must be in charge yet submissive at the same time. It's a delicate balance and one that is often overlooked. You're in balance when you are in control of what you're doing to your partner's penis, yet still, you are able to kneel at his feet and, in essence, worship his erect cock.
There's a perceived degradation in many cultures and societies of the person giving fellatio. Whether it's a man or a woman being degraded is irrelevant. On the other hand, in a situation where you have the freedom to choose whether or not to do it, fellatio can be an amazing, beautiful and intensely pleasurable sex act.
Fellatio means different things for everyone: it may have negative connotations, or be an statement of love and trust, or simply function as a kinky prelude to other types of sex.
Oh Baby, Let Me!!
The man who is receiving oral sex, whether he be gay, straight or otherwise sexually oriented, is still a man. As such his main concern is that you, the giver, be into the idea of sucking his dick. Just like with all sex, show some enthusiasm and it'll go a long way. This could be the single most important lesson in dick-sucking.
The question most often asked by women is this, "Is he enjoying it?" Just like anyone, women want to know that their efforts are appreciated. So men, please let us know!
Technique
Contrary to popular opinion, there is no set of standards for giving good head, except perhaps the seemingly obvious don't use teeth rule. If you are having trouble with this one, simply wrap your lips around your teeth to avoid hurting him.
Pay Attention
The best technique for fellatio is when you are paying attention to his responses. You can be very technically proficient, but if you're not paying attention, your lover won't be satisfied.
For example, some men love sloppy blow jobs, with lots of saliva and slobbering noises. Other men are totally repulsed by this. Don't assume that your man is one or the other. Ask.
Gauge His Responses
You can also just gauge his responses. First, the man receiving a blow job is not going to react the same way a woman receiving oral sex would. His orgasm is not necessarily as dependent on oral sex as hers. But rapid breathing, moving around, hip thrusting, putting his hand on your head, those are pretty good signs.
Another thing. Even if you are shy about communicating, you should be able to squeeze out an. I really like sucking your dick! This kind if flattery wins big points if you are sincere about it.
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